Going through a separation or divorce can be very difficult, no matter the reason for it. It can turn your world upside down and make it hard to get through the work day and stay productive. But there are things you can do to get through this difficult adjustment.
Recognize that it’s OK to have different feelings: It’s normal to feel sad, angry, exhausted, frustrated and confused—and these feelings can be intense. Accept that reactions like these will lessen over time.
Give yourself a break: Give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time.No one is superman or superwoman; take time to heal, regroup and re-energize.
Don’t go through this alone: Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Isolating yourself can raise your stress levels, reduce your concentration, and get in the way of your work, relationships and overall health. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you need it.
Take care of yourself emotionally and physically: Take time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Keep to your normal routines as much as possible. Try to avoid making major decisions or changes in life plans. Don’t use alcohol, drugs or cigarettes as a way to cope; they only lead to more problems.
Take time to explore your interests: Reconnect with things you enjoy doing apart from your spouse. Invest time in your hobbies, volunteer, and take time to enjoy life and make new friends.
Think positively: Easier said than done, right? Things may not be the same, but finding new activities and friends, and moving forward with reasonable expectations will make this transition easier. Life will get back to normal, although “normal” may be different from what you had originally hoped.