You don’t have to have a nice body, great accomplishments, or be popular to have self-esteem. Self-esteem simply means appreciating yourself for who you are, faults, imperfections and all. The difference between someone who has good self-esteem compared to someone who doesn’t is the acknowledgement of your strengths and weaknesses, and being able to move through the world with that knowledge.
So how do you improve your self-esteem? Check out these 6 tips.
- Do some inventory. You can’t fix what you don’t know, so get a piece of paper out and write down 10 strengths and 10 weaknesses. Doing this lets you see things you are great at and things that may also need some work. People don’t change overtime, so slowly start working on each of your weaknesses and you will see your list of weaknesses getting smaller and smaller over the years.
- Set realistic expectations. Nothing will bomb your self-esteem more than setting an unrealistic expectation and realizing you haven’t met it yet. If we stop setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves, then we will stop beating ourselves up for not meeting them.
- Acknowledge your accomplishments and mistakes. Nobody is perfect, so just let that go now. Instead acknowledge your accomplishments and also your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes and it is an opportunity to learn and grow so don’t be ashamed.
- Explore yourself. Its not just about knowing your strengths and weaknessed, but also opening up to new opportunities, thoughts, and trying out new things, new viewpoints, and new friendships.
- Adjust your own self image. Self-esteem is useless if you base it on an older version of you that no longer exists. We change everyday, things that we were once good at we may not be good at anymore and vice versa. We have to keep adjusting our self-image and self-esteem to match our current abilities and skills, not those of our past.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Another thing that will bomb our self-esteem, unfair comparisons. It may be hard, but you have to put an end to the comparisons. The only person you should be competing against is the person you were yesterday.
Changing your self-esteem takes time, trial-and-error, and patience on your part. Make an effort to be more fair and more realistic with your own self. People with a good and healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves for who they are, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities and accomplishments.
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