Sometimes the simplest solution is just to stop and listen to what your partner is saying and imagine how and why he or she could be feeling that way or seeing things in that light. Don’t try to defend yourself, correct others’ perceptions, or talk them out of their feelings. Just put yourself in their shoes. Try to hear how they understand, interpret, and feel about the situation, and imagine how you would feel or act if you were seeing things that way. If what your partner is saying sounds crazy or unreasonable, consider the possibility that you are missing something, and listen and ask questions to see if you can understand. Express that understanding to them and let them know how difficult it must be for them, given how they are feeling about the situation.
When you are stuck in a relationship problem, things can seem hopeless. If communication and listening problems persist or you find yourself too discouraged to even try compassionate listening, it is a good idea to seek the help of a marriage or relationship counselor.
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