Who has heard of this phrase? I am done with this relationship unless you get therapy? You are shocked at this statement and scramble to catch up on what you did wrong in your relationship. You do everything you are supposed to, start talking, look for a therapist and still it’s not enough. You have no idea what is left so you decide to seek couple’s counseling on your own. The first question you ask your therapist is “Can this work with just me here?” The answer is a big fat YES. Here are some reasons why couple’s counseling can be just as effective with one person than with 2.
The ripple effect works in this case by making changes to one person, changes are made to the couple
Once you start therapy, and your partner can see changes, then they will want to join you in therapy.
It takes two to tango, but in this case one is enough to learn. If you are the motivated partner to make changes, then just coming to therapy will help your relationship.
What happens when you are just the motivated partner and believe that the other person need’s therapy but will not come? The answer is simple, make your appointment and find out how you can start the change process in your relationship. You will either benefit from changes in yourself that will change your partner or you will just learn how to deal with your partner in a different way. Regardless, waiting for an unmotivated person to start therapy is not going to help your relationship. If you are reading this and thing that therapy can help you or your relationship, then make the call! The worst that can happen is you can learn about yourself and how to change. The best is you and your partner can work on evolving into a new couple through supportive couple’s counseling.
If any of this makes sense to you, please feel free to let us know so we can start helping you today!