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Why men don’t want to do Marriage Counseling

Usually the wife calls a therapist to make an appointment for marriage counseling. Then she tells her husband they have an appointment for marriage counseling with a therapist. He balks, complains and is resistant to going, making excuses and sometimes an argument will ensue from her making the appointment.  Most men feel the therapist will blame them for everything and make them change their behavior.  Some men feel a female therapist with be gender biased and blame him for everything wrong in the marriage. In some cases with some therapists this may be true due to the therapist’s past relationship experiences ( this does not make for a good therapist). Some men will resist because they are afraid some truth may come out, like an affair or substance abuse. Here at Affordable Counseling in Brandon Fl and Tampa Fl we will not hire a therapist who we feel is gender biased.  We see it all the time, the couple comes in for marriage counseling and the husband is either wide eyed or very quiet. They are having a little anxiety just walking in the door. After the session for marriage counseling the guy’s are a lot more relaxed and on board with marriage counseling. This is when they realize it is not all their fault, most of the time it is both of their faults and both of their behavior is the reason they are having trouble and seeking marriage counseling.  At Affordable Counseling in Brandon Fl. and Tampa Fl. we help a lot of couples with marriage counseling and couples counseling. None of our therapists are gender biased and we teach the couples skills and tools to improve their relationship. We never take sides and mediate an argument and say who is right or wrong.


Counseling for Couples

As in marital relationships, unmarried couples can experience an endless cycle of arguments, with even the smallest thing leading to a prolonged battle of who is right and who is wrong.  Sometimes, it is difficult to understand why such things are happening in your relationship despite the fact that you started it right. Where did the intimacy go?  Why do our differences seem so irresolvable? In couples counseling, we can help you make sense out of what is happening between you and help you restore the emotional connection you are both longing for.


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Self Defining Memories and Scripts

An integrative model of narrative identity builds on a dual memory system that draws on episodic memory and a long‐term self to generate autobiographical memories. Autobiographical memories related to critical goals in a lifetime period lead to life‐story memories, which in turn become self‐defining memories when linked to an individual’s enduring concerns. Self‐defining memories that share repetitive emotion‐outcome sequences yield narrative scripts, abstracted templates that filter cognitive‐affective processing. The life story is the individual’s overarching narrative that provides unity and purpose over the life course.

Your Self Worth

Your self worth is a function of how you value yourself. To build your self worth you must first discover your values and then make up your own definition of success. Your values are nothing more than what you value in life. You probably already know that society places excessive value on the outward appearances of success, such as money, material possessions, physical appearance, marital status, career and so on. In contrast, little consideration is ever given to the loftier values of a person, such as love, integrity, kindness, emotional intelligence, forgiveness and inner balance, when defining one’s success. This means that we have a warped definition of success based largely on outward appearances, which really results in a warped sense of self worth.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Symptoms

Signs of oppositional defiant disorder in children are usually apparent before the age eight. Behaviors may occur most with people the child knows well, such as family members or care providers. These behaviors are frequent, not age appropriate, and cause significant issues at school, at home, and/or with peers.

  • Losing one’s temper often.
  • Frequent arguing with adults or refusing to comply with adults’ rules or requests.
  • Often getting angry or being resentful or vindictive.
  • Deliberately annoying others; easily becoming annoyed with others.
  • Often blaming other people for one’s own mistakes or misbehavi

The Effect of ADHD from Childhood to Adulthood.

Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a chronic, debilitating disorder which may impact upon many aspects of an individual’s life, including academic difficulties, social skills problems, and strained parent-child relationships. Whereas it was previously thought that children eventually outgrow ADHD, recent studies suggest that 30–60% of affected individuals continue to show significant symptoms of the disorder into adulthood. Children with the disorder are at greater risk for longer term negative outcomes, such as lower educational and employment attainment. A vital consideration in the effective treatment of ADHD is how the disorder affects the daily lives of children, young people, and their families. Indeed, it is not sufficient to merely consider ADHD symptoms during school hours—a thorough examination of the disorder should take into account the functioning and well being of the entire family.

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