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CHILDREN OF DIVORCE FACTS

CHILDREN OF DIVORCE FACTS

At Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa Fl & Brandon Fl. we help children of divorce understand what is happening to them and how to cope with their parents getting divorced. 

General children divorce statistics

  • 50% of all North-American children will witness the divorce of their parents. Almost half of them will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage. (Furstenberg and others -Life Course-)
  • One out of 10 children of divorce experiences three or more parental marriage breakups. (Gallagher -The Abolition of Marriage)
  • 40% of children growing up in America today are being raised without their fathers. (Wade, Horn and Busy, -Fathers, Marriage and Welfare Reform, Hudson Institute Executive Briefing, 1997)
  • 50% of all the children born to married parents today, will experience the divorce of their parents before they are 18 years old. (Fagan, Fitzgerald, Rector, -The Effects of Divorce On America-)

Emotional Damage Statistics

  • Studies in 1980 – 1981 uncovered that children in repeat divorces got lower results at school. The other children of their age rated them as less pleasant to be around. (Andrew J. Cherlin, -Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage– Harvard University Press 1981)
  • Teenage children of divorce are three times more likely (35% instead of 13%) to need psychological help within a given year. (Peter Hill – Recent Advances in Selected Aspects of Adolescent Development- Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 1993)
  • Children from divorced homes have more psychological problems, than children from which one of the parents has died. (Robert E. Emery,- Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment- Sage Publications, 1988).

Physical Damage Statistics

  • Between children of divorced parents there are relatively more cases of injury, asthma, headaches and speech defects than among children whose parents have remained married. (Dawson -Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well Being- National Health Interview Survey on Child Health, Journal of Marriage and Family)
  • Children of divorced parents are fifty percent more likely to develop health problems than children in two parent families. (Angel, Worobey, -Single Motherhood and Children’s Health -)
  • Children that are living with both biological parents are 20 to 35 percent physically healthier than children from broken homes. (Dawson,-Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well-being -Journal of Marriage and the Family-)
  • Most molestated childs come from single-parent households or are the children of drug users. (Los Angles Times 16 September 1985 The Garbage Generation)
  • A child in a female-headed home is 10 times more likely to be physically hurt or murdered. (The Legal Beagle, July 1984, -The Garbage Generation)

Long term Effects and Children Divorce Statistics

  • In 1991 a study was done of children from which the parents were divorced six years earlier. The study found that even after all that time, these children tended to be lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure. (Wallerstein – The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children -Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1991)
  • Seventy percent of long-term prison inmates grew up in broken homes. (Horn, Bush, -Fathers, Marriage and Welfare Reform-)

Problems relating to peers

  • Children divorce statistics indicate that children of divorced parents are four times more likely to report relational problems with peers and friends than children whose parents have kept their marriages intact. (Tysse, Burnett, -Moral Dilemmas of Early Adolescents of Divorced and Intact Families-. Journal of Early Adolescence 1993)
  • Children of divorce tend to be more aggressive toward others. This is especially the case for boys. (Emery, Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment, 1988)

Suicide statistics of Children of Divorce

  • (Adult) children of divorce are almost twice as likely to attempt suicide than children from normal homes. (Velez-Cohen, – Suicidal Behavior and Ideation in a Community Sample of Children -Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1988)

High School drop out statistics of children and divorce

  • The high school dropout rate of children of divorced parents is roughly two times higher than that of children of which the parents did not divorce. (McLanahan, Sandefur, -Growing Up With a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps- Harvard University Press 1994)

 

Divorce Facts

Being aware of divorce facts will be helpful for parents to prevent a divorce or to make the best out of a divorce once it takes place. Knowing what to expect takes away a lot of the stress that results from a divorce.

Divorce Statistics

For divorce statistics the divorce rate is the most relevant figure. Next to the divorce rate of all the OECD countries, we provide you with information on the number of marriages, the duration of the marriages and the average age of when people marry for the first time. All these factors influence the divorce rates.

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Anxiety/Depression Counseling

Depression and anxiety also share an essential psychological component — namely, pushing people away from living in the present moment. Individuals with anxiety are continuously worried about the future, while people with depression are often focused on what has happened in the past.

People dealing with depression ask a lot of “why” questions of themselves, such as “Why did I … ?” People struggling with anxiety, on the other hand, tend to use statements indicative of fear of future events, such as “I’m really worried about what’s going to happen with …”

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Counseling for Couples

As in marital relationships, unmarried couples can experience an endless cycle of arguments, with even the smallest thing leading to a prolonged battle of who is right and who is wrong.  Sometimes, it is difficult to understand why such things are happening in your relationship despite the fact that you started it right. Where did the intimacy go?  Why do our differences seem so irresolvable? In couples counseling, we can help you make sense out of what is happening between you and help you restore the emotional connection you are both longing for.

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Self Defining Memories and Scripts

An integrative model of narrative identity builds on a dual memory system that draws on episodic memory and a long‐term self to generate autobiographical memories. Autobiographical memories related to critical goals in a lifetime period lead to life‐story memories, which in turn become self‐defining memories when linked to an individual’s enduring concerns. Self‐defining memories that share repetitive emotion‐outcome sequences yield narrative scripts, abstracted templates that filter cognitive‐affective processing. The life story is the individual’s overarching narrative that provides unity and purpose over the life course.

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Relationship Conflict

The reality is couples who don’t have at least the occasional battle might have bigger problems than those who argue regularly. They may have issues with trust and honesty, or are emotionally disconnected and so they keep their interactions at superficial levels. Or they may avoid conflicts because they believe their issues cannot be resolved, or their communication styles may be so dysfunctional that even minor confrontations turn into major fights. Other couples, such as those who have traditional views of the roles of men and woman, may avoid certain issues because they’re considered to be closed to discussion and one or the other partner is not willing to change. Whatever the reason, when a couple dismisses issues to avoid conflicts, any aspect of their relationship that causes discontent will remain unresolved. Consequently, an unhappy partner doesn’t feel they have to power to make his or her relationship better.

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Oppositional Defiant Disorder Symptons (ODD)

  • Unusually quick to lose his temper
  • Ignores or rebels against rules, at home or at school
  • Quick to blame others for mistakes or misbehavior
  • Prone to annoy others and be easily annoyed himself
  • Disruptive behavior appears to be intentional rather than impulsive
  • Refuses to cooperate reflexively—even before he knows what is being asked

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