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Marriage Counseling

Every relationship is bound to experience highs and lows, and that’s normal when you’re in a relationship as close as a marriage. Determining whether your marriage is experiencing a small bump in the road or if it’s something more serious that requires professional counseling may be easier than you think.

Even the best marriage can suffer normal wear and tear over the years. If it shows signs of breaking down and you and your spouse growing apart, professional marriage counseling is often the best next step. A good counselor can guide you toward getting the relationship back on the right track by identifying what the real issues are and then helping you to implement solutions.

Marriages tend to change over time, especially when faced with a major transition, such as one partner going back to school, when you’re expecting your first child, or you’re suffering the loss of a family member. A good marriage counselor can help you to get through these changes so that you can find your relationship’s new normal and regain focus on each other.

Even if you feel that your marriage is in good shape, counseling may be able to make it great. Getting the perspective of an objective professional can help you to keep your relationship with your spouse running smoothly.

We can help. Call us to schedule your marriage counseling session and begin making your relationship great again.

Email us at: or call us anytime at (813) 244-1251


Sending & receiving ~ good vibes

Believe it or not there’s a science behind “good vibes” and ways to draw them into your life. The law of attraction states, in simple terms, that the energy you put into the universe will dictate the world around you. So, in theory, if you simply think positive thoughts and send positive vibes out into the universe, your life will be better.

Think about it, how many times have you stubbed your toe getting out of bed, or spilled your coffee in the morning and had your whole day go downhill from there? It’s the law of attraction. As you stub your toe or spill your coffee, you’re sending negative energy out into the universe. After that, the universe will respond to your negative energy with more negativity.

When you have a brighter outlook on life and your future, it only makes sense that a bright future will follow.  So, be confident in what you want to ask the universe to give you; make sure you want it with your whole heart and soul. Then, visualize what you want as if it’s already yours, and imagine sending a mental picture of it out into the universe. Be confident, keep a positive state of mind and imagine that you already have it. The stronger your faith, the quicker your reward will come to you. In addition, don’t forget to be grateful; thank the universe for all of the wonderful things you’ve received in your life this far. This will increase your positive state of mind and send more good vibes out into the universe.


Couples Counseling

Communication skills are a great skill in any relationship. Assertive Communication is the best way to communicate versus aggressive, passive aggressive or passive  communication

Fully listen to your spouse before formulating your thoughts, you can even repeat back to them “so I think I am hearing you say……….. is this correct”. Then formulate your thoughts and then speak. A lot of times we will start formulating our thoughts before the other person is done talking and then we do not full understand what they are saying.

. When talking to your spouse speak in a non emotional calm voice and tell your spouse how you feel. Do not tell them what they are doing wrong, in your mind, blaming them in a loud or aggressive voice.

If you feel you will benefit from couples counseling in the Tampa Bay area please visit our web site  or call us at 813-260-8892.

Are you in love or in love with the idea of love?

Often times we think we are in love, but in reality we are so caught up with the idea of love and being love that we confuse the two.

These are some signs that you are in love with the idea of love:

1. You believe your life will begin once you have the love of your life. Your life and happiness revolves around finding your significant other.

2. You’re dreaming of your wedding and the life you’ll have with someone, and you’re just looking for someone to fit into that role, not the other way around. You are fixated on what the relationship can do for you, not what you can give to it.

3. You know you don’t really love them, but you’re holding on to the love they give. You’re often times find yourself convincing yourself that you’re in love

4. You have this inclination to want to change your partner or drag things out when you know it’s not going to work out in the long-run.

5. You’re never single for too long. You don’t take the necessarily time to heal after a failed relationship. You just jump from one to the next.

6. You can’t seem to take it slow, even when you try to. All of a sudden you become obsessed with the other person, you’re around them all the time, you are literally addicted to the feeling of being with them.

Tips For Those With A Lower Sex Drive.

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When it comes to marriage or even relationships, sex is a tie that binds. However, for millions of couples, there is trouble behind closed doors. When one partner requires sex more often than the other, there is a sexual desire gap, and that spells trouble. Whether you are the partner who has higher desire or you are the partner with little to no desire, you both must be proactive to make improvements in your relationship.

here are some tips for the spouse whose desire for sex has seemingly vanished:

1. Make sex a bigger priority in your life. Your relationship depends on it, your partner’s feelings about himself/herself depends on it, and your future together depends on it. You have to stop thinking that you will have a great relationship without satisfying sex, unless your partner agrees.

2. Get a medical checkup. To eliminate physiological causes for your lack of desire, a trip to your family physician or gynecologist may be in order. Ask if hormone replacement therapy, herbal remedies or dietary changes may be helpful.

3. Schedule an appointment for you and your partner with a therapist who is trained and experienced in that area. If you are a man whose sexual desire has flat lined due to your having sexual problems such as performance anxiety, a certified sex therapist can teach you many different techniques to overcome these difficulties.

4. Care about your spouse’s feelings. Even though it may not be intentional, your partner may be hurt or feel rejected because of this. Part of the healing that must take place between the two of you involves your active participation in things that will help your partner feel better.

5. Look for the small flutters. When you feel even the slightest bit of desire, follow through with it. Nudge yourself to get your feet moving, you may find that your pleasurable physical sensations often override any reason to resist.

6. Talk openly about your preferences. As you begin to figure out what you like and don’t like, you have to commit to discussing it openly and specifically with your spouse. Don’t be embarrassed, you won’t get very far unless you address it.

Seek help from a professional if you have encountered the sexual desire gap, do not wait until the relationship is in a downward spiral or come to an end. Call today to schedule an appointment! (813)244-1251

6 Must-Haves For Relationship Compatibility.

You don’t have to be 100% compatible in order for a long-term relationship to work, but there are a few areas that will be beneficial to have partner compatibility. You can have a successful relationship if you only a few of the things listed below, but you will find that your relationship will have greater smooth sailing the more attributes you share or have in common.

Here are the 6 must-haves for an easier and less stressful relationship:

  1. Timeliness and punctuality. If one of you is punctual and the other isn’t, this is a recipe for an argument. You can both be punctual or even both always be late, but if one of you are not punctual then it always leaves the other unhappy.
  2. Cleanliness and orderliness. People who are usually neat and orderly find it a challenge to live with someone who is a slob. Those who don’t put much time or effort into cleanliness and orderliness usually don’t care that it actually may mean something to others.
  3. Money and spending. More couples argue about money and finances than anything else. If one partner is a spender and the other is a saver, that could mean trouble down the road when you’re planning for life’s bigger purchases, such as a house, cars or your children’s future education. Couples who are on the same page with money and finances have less stressful of a relationship.
  4. Sex and intimacy. Usually the second most thing that a couples argues about is not being on the same page with your needs and desires. It is important to discuss your needs and desires with each other to figure out if you are sexually compatible long-term.
  5. Life priorities and tempo. Some people are laid-back and may not let stress get to them, while others take every one of life’s challenges to heart and get stressed easily. Some people value work, seeing no problem in working 12-hour days, while others value spending time with the family and children. Having the same tempo and priorities will minimize the arguments about these issues.
  6. Spirituality and religion. Couples who come from two different religious backgrounds have a more difficult time making their relationship work, especially if there are kids involved.

The more you and your partner share in these six characteristics, the smoother going your romantic life is going to be, although nobody and no relationship is perfect. When you and your partner are both on the same page about things it makes the relationship run more smoothly and you both are better at handling whatever life throws at you.

For more information on how we can help you and your partner get on the same page and create a more smooth sailing type of relationship visit our website! 

What Does Star Point Counseling Offer?

At Star Point Counseling Center we provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises. Our Mental Health Professionals will help you build tools as well as designing and implementing goals and objectives. We can help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life. By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives, therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life that you deserve. Our counseling services include, but are not limited to, marriage/relationship counseling, troubled teens, parenting skills, anxiety, stress, depression, divorce/separation, grief/loss, negative behaviors, domestic violence, and more. We accept major insurances such as, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, and United Behavioral Health. If you do not have insurance we have affordable prices based on household income that range from $40-$100.  We have two convenient locations, Tampa and Brandon. The hours at the Tampa office are Monday-Friday 12pm-8pm, and Brandon office Monday-Thursday 12pm-8pm and Saturdays 10am-5pm by appointment only.

Call us today for more information about our services or to make an appointment! (813)244-1251


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