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How to Communicate if You Are Angry

It’s okay to get angry in a relationship – everyone does at some point! What’s important is that you resolve conflicts in a healthy way. If you get angry with your partner, here are a few steps to take:

  • Stop. If you get really angry about something, stop, take a step back and breathe. Tell your partner you’d like to take a short break before continuing the conversation. Give yourself time to calm down by watching TV, talking to a friend, playing a video game, taking a walk, listening to some music or whatever helps you relax. Taking a break can keep the situation from getting worse.
  • Think. After you’re no longer upset, think about the situation and why you got so angry. Was it how your partner spoke or something they did? Figure out the real problem then think about how to explain your feelings.
  • Talk. Finally, talk to your partner and when you do, follow the tips above.
  • Listen. After you tell your partner how you feel, remember to stop talking and listen to what they have to say. You both deserve the opportunity to express how you feel in a safe and healthy environment.

Communicating isn’t always easy. At first, some of these tips may feel unnatural or awkward, but they will help you communicate better and build a healthy relationship.

At Affordable Counseling Center, we provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises.  We help you build tools as well as help design and implement individualized goals and objectives, help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life.  

We have the tools you need for managing pain, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, hopelessness, or anger resulting from circumstances that interfere in achieving a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.  By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life you know that you deserve.
We can be reached by phone/text/or email. We have offices in Tampa and Brandon and schedule your visits at times that are convenient to you.
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Taking Time for Yourself

How can I learn to take time for myself without the guilt?
By not taking a little time out of each day for yourself, you might be less happy than possible. Start by focusing on yourself. Acknowledge that your own happiness is important and practice happiness-boosting routines.


You have multiple priorities on your mind at any given time. Food, kids, laundry, cleaning, friends, work, bills, relationships, home, car, shower, sex, exercise, hobbies, not to mention politics, economics, scientific breakthroughs, the environment, public education or healthcare.

You are in constant movement, getting things done, going places, talking to people.

Not only are you thinking about many things at the same time, recent Harvard research, indicates that you’re thinking about something other than what you are doing in the moment at least 47% of the time. You spend most of your life engaging with a wandering mind, thinking about everything you need to do, pondering world affairs and absentmindedly doing what needs to be done right now. You are giving life half of your attention because almost 50% of the time you’re thinking of something other than what you’re doing.

When your life is guided by thoughts about things you have to do or things you have done you will likely fail to focus on the present. And you might experience a downward spiral* into stress and unhappiness.

Your focus is on everything and everyone except yourself.

You are rarely on your own list!

You feel responsible for “getting everything done.”

This mentality incorporates the thinking “If I don’t do it, who will?”

When you focus on everything except yourself you might feel angry, irritable, frustrated, disappointed, stressed, depressed, lethargic and you might head right for the chocolate and potato chips.

Affordable Counseling Center provides solution focused counseling for couples, families, and individuals by licensed Therapists to the extended Tampa, Brandon, Plant City, and Riverview areas. We can see you the day you call or whenever possible. We are available evening and weekends by appointment.

At Star Point Counseling Center, there are two convenient locations for you to choose from in Brandon and Tampa. So call or text us today, or anytime at (813) 244-1251 or visit us online at:


The word Anxiety is used widely and covers a broad range of experience. People can feel anxious about all sorts of things: anxious to get to your vacation spot, anxious to meet someone new. Anxiety that is a mood disorder is an experience that makes it difficult to go about life with a sense of confidence and ease. Common signs of an anxiety disorder include:

  1. Difficulty engaging in daily activities that others seem to do so easily
  2. A significantly uncomfortable physical experience when approaching certain places, people or situations: racing heart, numbness or tingling in your fingers, suddenly sweating or feeling cold, difficulty breathing, fuzzy thinking, restlessness
  3. A strong desire to avoid the situations or people that trigger that discomfort
  4. A predominant feeling of worry about something specific or about a broad range of things that make it difficult for the person to function: can’t turn off the worry and go to sleep; inability to perform uncomfortable work tasks and therefore, unable to get promotions at work; never throws anything away for fear it might be useful some day
  5. Fears are out of proportion to the perceived threat


While anxiety and worry are common experiences they warrant treatment when:

  1. Your world begins to get smaller and smaller: you stop or significantly limit your driving; the variety of places you are willing to go to are decreasing or you want to be home all the time
  2. You are having limited experiences in life and are feeling like you’re missing out
  3. Important people in your life are expressing worry about your number or degree of fear(s)
  4. You are becoming increasingly reliant on medication, other substances or people to feel comfortable or in control

The number of fears, the degrees to which one feels them, the degree of avoidance, and the level of disruption in one’s life are each unique to every individual. Some people find they can cope with their life with anxiety and others find it so debilitating or exhausting to manage they seek therapy. Affordable Counseling Center has offices in Tampa and Brandon and schedule your appointments around your busy schedule. (813) 244-1251 We are also online at:

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Myths About Stress.


Everyone deals with stress at one point or another in their lives. Stress is inevitable and there is no way of getting around it.  Many of us don’t understand the basics about stress and how it impacts our lives. If we can learn how to reduce and cope with stress, we can live a happier, better, and longer life.

Here are some of the myths about stress:

  • Myth 1: Stress is the same for everybody- MYTH. Everyone experiences stress differently, what one person may find stressful another person may not. Everyone experiences, responds, and copes with stress differently.
  • Myth 2: Stress is bad for us- MYTH. Stress in small amounts is not bad for us. The key is to learn how to manage stress, managing it can make us productive and happy.
  • Myth 3: Stress is everywhere and inevitable- FACT. Lots of things are inevitable, like the possibility of getting into an accident every time we drive, but that doesn’t stop us. All you can do is plan your life so the stress does not overwhelm you.
  • Myth 4: The most popular stress reducing techniques are the best ones- MYTH. A stress management technique that may be popular to one person may not even work for another. Everybody’s lives, situations, and reactions are different. You must find the technique that works best for you.
  • Myth 5: No symptoms, no stress- MYTH. An absence of symptoms does not mean an absence of stress. Although many people experience symptoms in a physical way, others may not have any physical symptoms at all.
  • Only major symptoms require attention- MYTH. No symptoms should be ignored or pushed to the side. If you wait until you start experiencing major symptoms of stress, it may be too late. A change in lifestyle to deal with minor symptoms can be less costly in the long run.

A Mental Health Counselor can teach you tools and techniques for managing and coping with stress. Don’t wait until you are experiencing major symptoms, get help as soon as possible. Reducing stress helps you feel better and leads to a better life.

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De-Stress In A Minute Or Less!


When stress hits, you can either lose your marbles or handle the overload with grace. Below are seven short-term fixes to help you accomplish the last mentioned, even if you only have a minute.

Try one (or two, or seven) of these effective, do-anywhere tips!

Take a deep breath: Taking a deep breath is a simple, effective way to calm your mind and give you perspective. Plus, deep breathing can release endorphins in your body, which will up your sense of well-being and make you feel more at ease.

Shout it out: Make an executive decision to remove yourself from a stressful situation to let it out in private. This way, you won’t mistakenly direct your frustration at an undeserving bystander.

Visualize a peaceful place: Even if you can’t physically get there, a mini mental vacation will bring you closer to your happy place.

Turn on your favorite tune: It’s no secret that music is a stress reliever and your favorite jam can help put things into perspective.

Peel an orange: I know your probably thinking how in the world that could help, but aromatherapy has been linked to reduced stress levels in adults. While you might not have any therapeutic oils on hand, chances are you can find an orange to peel.

Pet your pooch: According to the National Center for Infectious Diseases, spending time with your pet can decrease blood pressure.

Clean your desk: All that physical clutter could be a reflection of what’s happening inside. It’ll just take a minute, with the potential to reset your workflow and clear your head.

Cant figure out how to deal with the stress? Is it too overwhelming and starting to affect your life? Call us today and we can help you reduce stress, relieve pain, and make you feel better. (813)244-1251


Relax, Don’t Stress


Did you know that there are a few simple methods you can use in order to reduce the negative symptoms of stress? Here are four easy methods to try today:

  • Positive self-talk

Instead of using negative self-talk (“I’m a failure,” or “I’m not good enough”) which decreases motivation and self-esteem, utilize positive self-talk (“I’m going to do well,” “I am great.”) which will increase your self-esteem and the drive to achieve your goals.

  • Emergency Stress Stoppers

Emergency stress stoppers are tools that help you deal with stress on the spot. For example, take three to five deep breaths before reacting, walk away, or count to ten before saying something you might regret.

  • Finding Pleasure

Make time to feel good when stress gets you down. Do at least one thing daily that you enjoy doing, and do it for at least 15 minutes. Activities like reading, sewing, or playing sports are surefire ways to get you in a good mood and battle stress.

  • Daily Relaxation

Watching TV can make you feel relaxed, but for this method we mean doing something that eases the tension stress can cause in your mind and body. Good examples of relaxation are yoga, tai chi (a series of slow, graceful movements) and meditation. In addition, a good skill to practice at the beginning or end of your day is deep breathing. You can achieve this by sitting comfortably in a chair, and taking slow, deep inhales and exhales for about five to ten minutes per day.

When in doubt, seek counseling. Counseling can help you to identify your stressors and learn effective ways to manage them so that you can focus on the positive things in your life, and keep pushing forward to your goals.

What are some methods you use to handle stress daily? Comment below, or leave a message on our Facebook page  #stressmanagement

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