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Your Teenager and Stress

The adult world is full of situations and events that cause stress. For teens, these stressful events might look different: parents’ divorce, peer pressure, school responsibilities, illness or situations with relationships. Even positive events can create a degree of stress.

The ability to evaluate stress levels and to develop coping skills increases for teens as they grow older and wiser. Often, it is not the situation that causes all the stress; it is the perception and belief about the situation.

It is important to distinguish daily life hurdles from significant stress. Parents and teens often experience daily challenges that can cause stress. Teens usually learn strategies to effectively cope with these small hassles. It is the significant stressors, such as the death of a family member or friend or a serious illness that will cause adolescents to be unable to cope. These events, when not dealt with, can result in serious consequences for the teen’s physical and emotional wellbeing.

While life’s everyday stressors have less negative impact than any single traumatic event, the cumulative effect can be just as detrimental. Perception of stress is often related to experiences and development. What is stressful for one person may not even amount to a small issue for another.

Every teen’s response to stress will be different. Some will have mood swings while others will take part in attention seeking behavior, avoid certain activities, isolate themselves, refuse to go to school, fail to prepare for class assignments and / or have physical complaints like headaches and stomach aches.

So what can parents do?

At Affordable Counseling Center, there are two convenient locations for you to choose from in Brandon and Tampa.  

We provide counseling services to individuals, couples, families, children, teens, and adults with any type of crises.  We help you build tools as well as help design and implement individualized goals and objectives, help you sort out beliefs, thoughts, and behavior patterns that may be hindering you in your relationship(s) whether at the work place or in other areas of your life.  
 
We have the tools you need for managing pain, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, hopelessness, or anger resulting from circumstances that interfere in achieving a balanced and fulfilling lifestyle.  By working together, we will show you how to set and achieve goals and objectives therapeutically designed to meet your needs that will allow you to live the life you know that you deserve.
Call or text us today, to schedule your appointment. (813) 244-1251 or visit us online at:
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Parenting Angry Teens.

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Are you dealing with an angry teen and don’t know how to handle it? Below are some tips that might help you get through it.

Hang in there. Parents who hang in there, who continue to express love and concern, who continue to insist on knowing where their kids are going and with whom, who include their teens in family events, and who stubbornly refuse to give up are the parents who generally manage to save their kids.

Take it seriously, but not personally. Usually teens do have things to be angry at, but it usually is something blown out of proportion. Don’t take things to heart. If there is something that you may have done wrong, then apologize. An honest apology and genuine efforts to make the family a better place to be can set the family in a new direction. It will take time.

The kid is just as scared as you are. Kids often use hostile moods as a cover up for fear. Children can get very overwhelmed with life. Instead of showing their vulnerability, they talk ad act like a big shot. 

Understand teen depression. Irritability and explosiveness are sometimes symptoms of depression.  If your teen’s mood seems unreasonable given his or her situation, it is important to get help from a counselor. 

 

The counselors at Star Point can help your child through the stages of change, to increase compliance with rules and laws, encourage positive peer selection, improve academic status, and overall goal directed behavior. We can also help open communication by encouraging the expression of negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that compromise your child’s sense of well being.

Visit our website for more information on our services. www.starpointcounselingbrandon.com

 

Is Your Teen Depressed?

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To adults and parents, a teen’s life may seem carefree. But in reality, teens struggle with many of the same things adults do, including depression. Teens who struggle with depression often exhibit many warning signs, as a parent you want to be aware of what they are and the actions to take.

If you spot any of these warning signs be sure to get your teen the help that he/she needs.

  1. Deep sadness. Sadness that persists for more than two weeks. Teens with depression have many thoughts or talk about suicide, or may resort to hurting themselves through cutting.
  2. Changes through eating habits or weight. If your child seems tormented about weight, it could be a sign of depression. Changes of eating habits are also a sign, look for suddenly eating more or less and sudden weight changes.
  3. Changes in sleep patterns and activity. Some teens may suddenly exhibit insomnia and have a hard time sleeping, while others may sleep much more than usual.
  4. Changes in mood and behavior. They may be very moody, becoming easily agitated, irritable and upset. Some teens may begin abusing alcohol and drugs or start getting in trouble with the law.
  5. Plunging self-esteem. Teens who are depressed tend to think negatively and very critically about themselves, they are never satisfied with their appearance.
  6. Withdrawal. Withdraw socially from friends and family and no longer want to participate in activities they used to enjoy may be a sign to look for.
  7. Physical pain. Frequent headaches, stomachaches, and pain elsewhere in the body for no otherwise clear cause may be a sign of depression in teens. Also, suddenly complaining of being very fatigued and having no energy, as well as frequent and sudden spells of crying.

If you notice any of these signs previously mentioned, call us so we can help encourage the expression of negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that may be compromising your child’s sense of well being. We can provide tools, skills, and strategics to help your child improve his or her self esteem and self concept, relationships, and to increase their level of functioning at home and at school.

Call Today! (813)244-1251

 

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Dealing with Troubled Teens.

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It is completely normal for your teenager to want to be independent, but not to act out in dangerous extremes. If they are creating self-destructive behavior DO NOT wait to intervene. The longer you let it go, the more perilous the situation becomes.

Here is some advice for parents with troubled teens:

-Identify the cause: If your teen is making drastic behavioral changes, there’s a reason. It’s a cause-and-effect situation. As a parent, it’s your responsibility to identify what’s behind the change. It may be a recent event, or it may be something deep-rooted.

-Look back: Negative events that happened at ages 2, 3 or 4 help to shape children’s personalities. By the time these toddlers become teenagers, they’ve been living with the resulting pain for most of their lives. As teenagers, they are able to act on these feelings with more lasting — and harmful — consequences.

-Listen and talk: Teenagers today have more opportunities to make bad decisions than they did in years past. This is all the more reason that you must be a positive, reliable person in your child’s life. Listen to him or her and resist the urge to judge or advise; sometimes just being heard helps. Even though they’re often reluctant to admit it, they seek approval, love, and a “soft place to fall” in their parents. If they don’t feel valued, loved and understood at home, they’ll turn elsewhere to get the acceptance they so deeply need.

-Act like a parent: …especially if your teenager is already going down the wrong path. A warm relationship is ideal, but sometimes you must do things your child won’t understand. Remember: you’re a parent, not a pal. Your responsibility is to ensure the well-being and safety of your child. Intervening in a dangerous situation (like ones involving drugs, abuse or truancy) might make your child dislike you, but it will also save his or her life.

If you are having a hard time dealing with your troubled teen, seek help from a Licensed Mental Heath Counselor.

For more information on how we can help visit our website! http://www.starpointcounselingtampa.com

Call us today to set up an appointment! (813) 244-1251

 

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